Indeed, the whole Law has been summed up in this one precept- -'Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thou dost thyself.' But, if you are continually wounding and preying upon one another, take care that you are not destroyed by one another. This is what I have to say--Let your steps be guided by the Spirit, and then you will never gratify the cravings of your earthly nature. For these cravings of our earthly nature conflict with the Spirit, and the Spirit with our earthly nature--they are two contrary principles--so that you cannot do what you wish. But, if you follow the guidance of the Spirit, you are not subject to Law. The sins of our earthly nature are unmistakable. They are sins like these--unchastity, impurity, indecency, Idolatry, sorcery, quarrels, strife, jealousy, outbursts of passion, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, Feelings of envy, drunkenness, revelry, and the like. And I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who indulge in such things will have no place in the Kingdom of God. . . Do not let us grow vain, and provoke or envy one another. (Galatians 5:14-21,24; Twentieth Century New Testament, 1904, emphasis mine)
You know the feeling. Someone says something that disagrees with everything you know to be true. Before you know it, your ire is up, blood pumping, and you just have to set the person straight.
But at what cost? Yeah, it feels good to get in that stinging comment that ought to settle the debate. Then, they come back with something you can't even believe they're bringing up as basis for their argument. Back and forth, back and forth. Where does it end?
Soon, the debate overtakes your mind: It alters your perceptions and invites the lusts of the flesh (above, "cravings of your earthly nature") to be fulfilled. What have you accomplished besides the alienation (see emphasis) of one whom God created?
It's one thing to debate with non-Christians, but another to engage your brother in Christ. So before you open your mouth, pick up the pen, or hit that reply button, ask yourself some questions:
Is this emotion within me from God, or is it my flesh trying to conquer a perceived foe? Our emotions can be powerful, and powerfully deceiving. Mistaking your flesh for God can have dire consequences.
- Can I speak the truth in love, or will I appear vain, perhaps hateful? (Ephesians 4:15) If you're not sure, maybe now's not the time to discuss the topic. You must be able to speak in such a way that honors the sum of the Law: to love your neighbor as yourself.
- Are the results of my efforts the fruits of the Spirit? (Galatians 5:22) If not, maybe it's best to leave the results to God.
Most importantly, PRAY! It's so easy to follow stirred emotions, especially when pride is at stake. If God indicates this is a topic others need to understand, pray for the right words to be spoken in a manner that will draw others to God, not yourself. Then, leave the results in God's hands. Human pride is not likely to allow one to suddenly abandon what he believes, but if God is the One who reveals the truth, he will be more open. Finally, be ready to accept the possibility that YOU are the one whose mind needs changing--whether it be to the other side, somewhere in between, or even the point where you accept that we cannot know definitively on this side of heaven--nor should we worry about it.